Posted on April 25, 2008 - by HUMVOX

Four Reasons Why Most People NEVER Succeed In Life…

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4 Reasons Why Most People NEVER Succeed In Life…

By Adam Khoo

If so many people are out there ALL say they want to become
successful, then why do so many people fail to do it?

These are the 4 main reasons why most people never achieve their
goals in life. If you can overcome these 4 obstacles, you can
practically achieve anything.

1) Limiting Beliefs

The first thing that holds most people back from setting goals are
their limiting beliefs. Many people only dream about what they
would love to have. When it comes to committing to a specific
target and plan, they don’t even bother. Something inside them says
‘there is no way’. Either it’s too difficult or they simply don’t
have what it takes.

You now know that these are nothing but limiting beliefs. Unless we
break past these generalizations about ourselves, we will never
dare to design goals that drive us to the next level.

2) They Don’t Know What They Want

‘But… I don’t know what I want!’ This is probably one of the
most common responses I get from people. I bet if I gave these
people a magic lamp and told them that they would be granted
anything they wish for, they will start making up a whole list of
things real quick!

It is not that people don’t know what they want. What has truly
happened is that most people have stopped daring to dream. I
believe that as kids, all of us had fantasies and dreams of what we
wanted to have and be when we grow up. However, as we went through
life, we meet with so many failures and disappointments that our
rational, critical mind has forbidden us to continue day dreaming
anymore.

Whenever we get excited about something, our internal voice will
rush in to tell us, ‘it can’t be done’ ‘you cannot do that’ ‘
that’s impossible.’ ‘grow up, get real’. (It could even be an echo
of our parents’ voice, if we had stern, no-nonsense parents). As a
result, this would block our creative juices and deflate our
passion - the very elements we need to create and design the life
we truly want.

We need to learn how to unlock our imagination and set our creative
minds FREE….free of fear and inhibitions so we can dream clearly
and with growing excitement of what we truly want out of life.

3) Fear of Failure

This fear of failure, of rejection and embarrassment is what
probably paralyzes most people from even starting out. I had a
participant in one of my seminars who never dared set goals because
of her intense fear of failing if she did not achieve what she had
set her heart and mind to.

In her mind, she reckoned that if she did not set expectations,
then she could not fail!

My mum did something similar when she was sitting for her final O
level examinations over 40 years ago. She was sure she would fail
maths (which she hated), and so she decided she would rather not
take the exam than have a fail mark!

Sound crazy, but many people do the same thing. They believe that
it is better not to have expectations so they cannot let themselves
down.

Does this mean that people who keep setting goals do not fear
failure? I don’t believe so. I think everyone hates and fears the
feeling of failure, including myself.

What then gives them the courage to set high goals and go for it?
It is how we define failure to ourselves. The only one who can tell
us that we failed and make us feel bad is… ourselves.

Yet, this is how we often shoot ourselves in the foot. The moment
we do not achieve what we want, even on our first attempt, we tell
ourselves we have failed, and feel really bad.

This pain is what prevents us - and this goes for the majority of
people - from daring to try for high stakes, to taking risks.

4) Addiction to the Soft Life

Most people are risk averse because they are addicted to a way of
life: a soft life, a cushy life with habits and material comforts
they are loathed to change or risk losing. Unless that comfy
life-style is imminently under threat, they won’t do anything that
calls for iron will and discipline.

Setting goals and really going for our goals often means changing
habits, sacrificing time spent hanging out with friends. This is
why people make half-hearted attempts. As soon as their new path
impinges on their old habits, they withdraw…it’s too hard.

A friend who teaches a Detox & Energize self-help program says most
people don’t stick to it because even if they believe in its
long-term health benefits, they are not willing to work at it….and
it is life-long work. They’d rather pop a pill (a drug) and dam the
long-term consequences.

There are no short-cuts to success in any area - business/career,
health or personal relationships. So, be prepared to make what
appears to be ’sacrifices’ and, if you do, the rewards are there.

Adam Khoo’s recommendations:

If you need a real-life example of someone who has overcome these 4
obstacles IN SPITE of the circumstances life has thrown at her, then
you must read her story here:

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http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=KxYsO&m=1bgmPHLynfTRcv&b=W7IbO45OqjkwDDeK76wcmw

Trust me… If anyone can go through all her setbacks and challenges
she’s faced and still come out on top, there’s no reason why you
can’t do the same for yourself!

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http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=KxYsO&m=1bgmPHLynfTRcv&b=W7IbO45OqjkwDDeK76wcmw

To your success,
Adam